I’ve recently come to view recovery as a journey rather than a destination.
When we view recovery as a destination we can so easily become disheartened and hopeless. We see recovery as this elusive goal of happiness, an impossible reality. And who wants to continue striving and working towards the impossible? I know I sure as hell don’t want to and I’m guessing you don’t want to either.
Viewing recovery as a destination lends itself to black and white thinking. It creates a false reality of what recovery really means, what recovery actually is. You do not wake up one day and say ‘oh, would you look at that, I’m recovered now.’ There is no finish line to cross, there is no medal to win that has the word ‘recovered’ engraved on it. That’s not how it works and continuing to believe that, that is how it works only slows your progress. You forget to look at the here and now, you miss the entire point of recovery. You will continue to reach for something that is beyond your grasp.
The point of recovery is not to get from point A to point B and think ‘okay I’m recovered now.’ It’s more like getting from point A to point B and thinking ‘wow look at the progress I’ve made, now lets work towards point C.’
Because there is always something new to learn. We are always working towards being a better version of ourselves. Viewing recovery as a journey rather than a destination helps to remove the pressure from the equation. It doesn’t matter how slow you go, it doesn’t even matter if you have to stop for a while, rest when you need to, the only thing that matters it that you don’t ever give up.
Often we are so focused on where we want to be, we neglect to notice and recognise just how far we have come. As we travel and make progress on our journey of recovery, our challenges and obstacles may not necessarily become smaller, but rather they begin to get easier. This is because we slowly learn how to face and combat these obstacles. We learn new copying mechanisms and new ways to look at situations. You could say we slowly build a ‘life survival kit’ or ‘arsenal’. And for me personally, viewing recovery as a journey as helped me to not lose hope or become despondent. It has actually helped me to stay more positive which in turn has helped me to make a lot of progress.
So let me know, have you been viewing recovery as a destination or a journey? Which do you think is better? Let’s have a discussion in the comments, I’d love to hear your thoughts.